How do you talk to yourself? How do you talk to others? Have you ever said anything that you’ve regretted? Have you ever hurt someone with your words? Have you made someone smile by your words? The power of words. What we say can have such an impact on other people as well as ourselves. The words we speak should be words of encouragement, but they aren’t always.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.” ~ Proverbs 18:21, NKJV
What is it that you are speaking to yourself and others? Are your words speaking life? Are you speaking words that will lift someone else up, words that edify yourself? OR are you speaking things of death? Things that tear down, hurt, and/ or destroy? I can honestly say, I’ve said words both of life and also of death.
There was a time that I was negative. It was at a time in my life when things were going pretty bad for me. What I didn’t realize at the time was that I had the power to change things. I finally realized that the more negative things that I thought about or spoke, more negative things would come into my life.
The Power of Words
The law of attraction talks about like attracting like. Whatever you are putting out there, whether you realize it or not, more of that will come back to you. If you’re speaking things of negativity, expect more of that to come to you. Words are powerful.
In times of hurt, anger, or frustration is when we need to watch our words the most. Once you say something to someone, you can’t take it back. Perhaps you’ve used the phrase, “I take that back” after you have said something hurtful or inappropriate. It’s not like it’s a piece of paper or some other innate object. You can’t just take back what you’ve said once you said it. I’m totally guilty. During that depressing time in my life, I have said some things that I just can’t take back. Whatever damage had been done with my words, was already done. Sure, we can apologize and be genuinely sorry, but that doesn’t erase the words that have been said.
“Words are like eggs dropped from great heights; you can no more call them back than ignore the mess they leave when they fall.” ~ Jodi Picoult,
As I’ve gotten older and wiser, I actually take the time to think about what I’m going to say before I say it; especially in delicate situations. In my younger days, I can admit, it was “shoot” with my words first, then ask questions or think about it later. It wasn’t always like that. However, when it was, it truly wasn’t pretty. Sometimes for days, I would feel so terrible or even guilty. I’m not perfect. I still slip up every now and then due to my emotions running high. I’m human. It’s no excuse. I have to be prepared for the consequences of my words.
“Words! What power they hold. Once they have rooted in your psyche, it is difficult to escape them. Words can shape the future of a child and destroy the existence of an adult. Words are powerful. Be careful how you use them because once you have pronounced them, you cannot remove the scar they leave behind.” ~ Vashti Quiroz-Vega
It isn’t just words that we say to others that can get us into trouble. It’s also the words that we say to ourselves. Sometimes, these words are even harsher than the ones we may say to someone else. We beat ourselves up for making mistakes. We tear ourselves down for not being pretty like such and such, being smart, having money, not having the right clothes, or for who we believe we are. None of these reasons justify us beating ourselves up. We too deserve to hear positive and encouraging words to ourselves. Some of us forget that we too deserve love and affection.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” ~ Gautama Buddha
The power of words. When you get upset at yourself, what are you saying? Listen to yourself sometime. You would be amazed at what you would hear. Speak to yourself in love. Be gentle with your words, even if you have messed up. We all make mistakes. Be kind to who you are. Speak words of life and love to you. Listen to Louse Hay. She has some great words of wisdom and some powerful affirmations. Check one of them out here.
Remember that your words have power; probably more power than you think they do. Your words can restore life into someone or you can destroy them. Also, take great care with your choosing of words to yourself. You are not stupid. You are not whatever negative thing you think about yourself. You are beautiful. Speak words of life to yourself. The choice is yours.
I hope this post spoke to you. I hope that the words I shared makes you think. Please share your comments below.
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