Stop comparing yourself to others. Have you heard this before? There was a time in my life where I compared myself to others all the time. I knew that I needed to stop comparing myself to others, but I didn’t know how. As an adopted child, I always felt undeserving; felt like I wasn’t good enough, and every other limited belief out there. I thought I was always in competition with members of my family; to feel like I actually belonged. I even had people in my life that always told me that I was too fat, or why couldn’t I be more like someone else in my family. The lies that were told to me on a constant basis, I believed.
With these limited beliefs always running around in my head, I became more angry and bitter. My attitude was negative almost all the time. What is wrong with me? Why couldn’t I too be happy? Am I not worth anything to anyone? Why this or why that. This person has it all. The grass is greener on the other side. The list goes on and on. That’s how I truly felt. It took time for me to realize that we are all created differently for a reason.
Comparison is an act of violence against the self.” ~ Iyanla Vanzant
Let me ask you a question. Have you ever compared yourself to others? I’m willing to bet that you have at one time or another. You read part of my story. We all have done it at least once in our lives. It’s time to stop comparing yourself to others. You are YOU for a reason. If you were meant to be someone else, you would.
Perhaps you’ve said the following things to yourself:
- I wish I was more like her.
- I want her life. My life sucks.
- She’s making money and I’m not.
- Why can’t I be more like her?
Stop comparing yourself to others.
When we are comparing ourselves to someone else, we are taking away from who we are. Believe it or not; you have so much to offer the world. Why would you want to be like anyone else? Yes, we all have problems; our own issues. We all have flaws. There is not a perfect person on this earth. You’re perfect just the way you are.
“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh
You are beautiful. You are smart. You are intelligent. You are a gift to the world. I could go on and on, but I think you have the idea. Say affirmations to yourself every day. I am beautiful. I am smart. I am intelligent. I am a gift to the world. Say this about three times in the morning and again before you go to bed. Add more positive affirmations as you go along. This will help change your mindset and allow you see yourself more differently. Almost in a new way.
Maybe you’re scared to be yourself. Afraid that people won’t like who you really are. Is it worth being like someone else? No. They don’t have your talents and gifts. Simply put, they are not you. There is only one you. Why would you not want to be you? You are the only one that can do it successfully.
“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.” ~ Lao Tzu
Learn to be content with who you are. You are unique. You are amazing. You are an original. Stop trying to be someone’s copy. If you were supposed to be like them, you would be. This transformation journey is a process. It may take some time before you believe this for yourself. In time you will believe it.
Until next time…..
Hi there! It’s nice to meet you! I’m a successful single mama, mental health advocate, sports fan, blogger and all around fun person helping other overwhelmed and stressed women entrepreneurs to get hope, have faith and be inspired to push through their depression and anxiety so they too can live the life of their dreams. Say hello! I would love to meet you! 🙂