The trailer of the new Whitney Houston movie was just on. I’m reminded of the passing of Whitney Houston back in 2012. She had one of the most beautiful voices in music. Whatever she sang about, it was translated into something incredibly beautiful. One of her songs, The Greatest Love of All is one of my favorite songs. In it, she sings:
“Because the greatest Love of all is happening to me, I found the greatest Love of all inside of me, The greatest love of all, Is easy to achieve, Learning to love yourself, It is the greatest love of all” ~ Whitney Houston, The Greatest Love of All
How do you treat yourself? When you make a mistake or do something wrong, how do you speak to yourself? Do you think something is wrong with you? That’s where it all starts; in our minds. I can admit that if I messed up or was disappointed in myself I thought something was wrong with me.
What is Self-Love?
Self-love is the unconditional support, self-care, and compassion that’s given to yourself. It’s having a regard for one’s own well-being, good health, self-esteem, and happiness. Self-love seems really simple, doesn’t it? But most of the time, we seem to forget that taking care of ourselves is just as important as taking care of others. That stigma of being selfish hangs over our heads and we start to feel guilty. We let the thoughts of others to enter our heads instead of just doing what we need to do.
Family, friends, and those that claim to know us are usually the ones that always have something to say. This is fact. They also seem to think that their words are the law too. At least in my experience. LOL. I finally had to learn that it was truly okay to pay attention to myself. I just didn’t know how at the time. So, I learned.
“When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self acceptance opened.” ~ Shannon L. Alder
Getting Over the Guilt
At first, I felt guilty. I was taking the time to do what I wanted to do. If I wanted ice cream, I bought me some ice cream. For things that were a little more costly, I set goals. I got in the habit of doing something nice for myself at least once a month. Then I worked up to twice a month. Whatever my finances could support at the time is what I did. I had a list of things that I could choose for myself.
“You were not meant for a mundane or mediocre life!” ~ Steve Maraboli,
No One Can Love You Any Better Than YOU
We somehow always look to find the love we seek in someone else. That isn’t possible. Our self-worth does not lie in our family, our significant others, etc. The love that we want and desperately seek comes from ourselves. We just need to realize that we are worth it.
I struggled with my self-worth once-upon-a-time. I truly believed that I wasn’t worth anything and therefore didn’t deserve anything that I truly wanted. Now, if I’m being honest, there are times when I still struggle with it. I had allowed what everyone else thought to control what I did.
One day, I was in my room and writing in my journal. As I was writing, I wrote down a question that I had asked myself. I asked why did I feel that I wasn’t worth anything? What made me come to that conclusion? I started to list everything that people had said to me. These weren’t my feelings. These were other people’s feelings. Because I respected some of these people in my life, I thought that they were right. What the hell was I thinking?
“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” — Buddha
Being True to Who You Are
Once I started to love myself, things were a little easier in my life. It wasn’t perfect, but a little easier. It was a truly eye-opening experience. First, I spent time learning who I was; which meant I spent a lot of time alone. I learned that I had a voice. If I didn’t like something, I sure did make it known. Learning to accept me with all the good things and with all the bad things about myself.
I went on a journey of self-discovery. As someone who spent a good part of her life always worried about what others thought, it was definitely time for a change. It was a hard road. There are times that I still worry what others thought, but not as much as I used to. I had to learn that this is my life and I get to live it the way I want to. Learning to be true to who I am. Now, that took some practice. I didn’t always have that confidence.
On my path of self-discovery, I got rid of those that were no longer serving me. It was a hard thing to do. I also got myself enrolled in counseling so I could start my healing process. I had made quite a few changes in my life.
“If you learn to really sit with loneliness and embrace it for the gift that it is…an opportunity to get to know YOU, to learn how strong you really are, to depend on no one but YOU for your happiness…you will realize that a little loneliness goes a LONG way in creating a richer, deeper, more vibrant and colorful YOU.” ~ Mandy Hale,
Five Ways to Practice Self-Love
Here’s a list of five ways to show yourself self-love. Try some of these ideas and see how they work for you.
- Make a list of all the things you like about yourself.
- Write five things in your journal that you’re grateful for.
- Start the day with two minutes of meditation.
- Treat yourself to a massage or a mani-pedi.
- Dress your body lovingly in a gorgeous outfit.
This is only five ways to show yourself self-love. How do you show yourself self-love? Do you go and get a massage? Or do you go and get your nails done? Maybe you relax on the couch with a great book and a cup of tea? Please share your ideas in the comments. I would love to know.
The Greatest Love of All
Below, I posted Whitney Houston’s video of her hit song, The Greatest Love of all. I hope you enjoy listening to it as much as I did.
Until Next Time….
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