I wrote this a couple of years ago on another blog and I feel it’s still important today. I think this post is important since we’re in the pursuit of our dreams. In order to push forward in our dreams, we need to have confidence in who we are and what we want to do. Confidence is a big thing that we need in our pursuit of our goals and dreams. As we go along, there may be days when we get knocked down and in that moment find it hard to get back up. We have to get up and keep moving,
Here’s my old post. I hope it helps.
With our economy the way it is, it’s hard to keep up with some things. Most people from all walks of life are struggling to make ends meet, me included. With that, the confidence that we had in ourselves (whether it was a little or a lot), has now been shaken. At times I wonder if I can bounce back from all of this. I actually wonder how much more of this I can take. I feel so low. God says that he’ll never give us more than we can bear. My human side says, Yeah, right! But spiritually, I have to keep believing that God knows what he’s doing. Nonetheless, my confidence is low. I’m now working on myself to get it back up.
How am I doing this? Here’s what I’m doing. Not all of this may work for you, but you’ll never know if you don’t try.
1. Find the source of the problem. Are you insecure about something? Your body? Money? Friends? For me, my source is FEAR. Yes, Fear. I’m fearing a lot these days, including this blog. But, I am learning to overcome that fear by posting my own issues and working through them online for everyone to see. Am I crazy? I could be. Putting yourself out there can be hard to do. But, if this helps one person; then for me, I am grateful.
2. Talk to your friends. Your friends are important and a great source of boosting your confidence. They’re usually the ones that know you best. They will not only give you feedback, but they should also help lift you up. They should be feeding you with positive words and not tear you down. I am very blessed to have a great set of friends in my corner. If you’re reading this, I am so grateful for each and every one of you.
3. Develop a sense of humor. Yes, a sense of humor. Things may seem bleak and even down right depressing. Sometimes, we need to laugh a little to get through some tough times. I think I can confidently say that I have a great sense of humor. I am able to make my friends laugh. Not only that, it takes my mind off my own issues and insecurities by taking a minute to laugh, even if it’s at myself.
4. Do something for you. Go to the spa. Get a haircut or a new do. Read a book that inspires you. You are so important. Take time out for yourself. Get your nails done. Buy a new red dress or red shoes. Red is considered a power color. Talk about a confidence booster.
5. Stop worrying about what other people think about you. I just added this one. I struggled with this for a long time. I was always worried about how someone saw me and what they thought about me. That kept my confidence low. It kept me paralyzed at times to pursue what I wanted to do. I was afraid of doing new things or to say anything for fear that someone will come out against me. I got through that by no longer caring what others think about me. You don’t need anyone’s permission or approval to do what it is that you want to do. When I put it in that perspective, it was easier for me to work through. The only person you need to please is yourself.
These are just a few ways to work on building or rebuilding your confidence.
What do you do to build up your confidence? Please share. I would love to hear from you.
Keep The Faith……
Hi there! It’s nice to meet you! I’m a successful single mama, mental health advocate, sports fan, blogger and all around fun person helping other overwhelmed and stressed women entrepreneurs to get hope, have faith and be inspired to push through their depression and anxiety so they too can live the life of their dreams. Say hello! I would love to meet you! 🙂