Do you believe you’re worth it? Have you ever felt like you’re not good enough? Like you’re just here taking up space on the earth? Wondering what it is you should be doing, but find that you’re doing something you don’t like? You’re not alone. Most of us have felt this way at one time or another. There’s were times when I’ve felt that I wasn’t good enough, smart enough, or anything enough. I felt that I wasn’t worth anything. I was on this crazy crusade of trying to please other people. My thoughts and feelings didn’t matter. It was like I gave all of my power to people that really didn’t have a say in my life. In short, my self-worth was low. Over time and a lot of lessons later, I realized that I am worth it. You’re worth it too. Keep reading.
Have you seen commercials for L’Oreal? The beautiful celebrities and models at the end always say, “Because I’m worth it” and then it evolved into “You’re Worth It.” Click here for more on the history of L’Oreal’s Because I’m Worth It. It was hard at first for me to admit that to myself because I still had those limited beliefs in my head, not to mention others voices. It seemed like the voices of those limited beliefs was louder than anything. I didn’t believe anyone when I got a compliment. But, when someone said something negative, I believed it. Believe it or not, we’re conditioned to believe the negative about ourselves instead of the positive a lot of times.
“The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique.” ~ Walt Disney Company
This is one of my favorite quotes. We must learn to like who we are and also realize that we are not anyone else. Maybe you wish you were this person or that person. Have you thought about what that so-called person goes through? Maybe being someone else isn’t all that. Let’s make this a little simpler. Focus first on learning to like who you are. That is a struggle for a lot of us. We just don’t like the way we look, the way we talk, the way our hair is, and so on. I could list so many things here.
Maybe you compare yourself to other people? Believing that they have it going on and not you. I too am guilty of this one. I spent a good portion of my life believing that others were better than me. I believed that I wasn’t worth anything. After all, my biological mother gave me up for adoption. Why would anyone want me? This was my daily struggle for years. I felt that I couldn’t do anything right. I lived in the shadow of others. I couldn’t understand that I had the power to change where I was going. I didn’t have to stay where I was. Neither do you.
“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.” ~ C. JoyBell C.
What I couldn’t understand was that I didn’t have to accept what others thought about me. When I was younger, I thought that because they “knew” me, I believed that what they were saying about was true. I didn’t have to live in someone else’s shadow. Most importantly, I had the POWER to change how I saw myself and where I was going. I didn’t have to stay where I was. That day was a new beginning for me.
First, I learned how to shut down all the negative people in my life. I did this by cutting some out of my life permanently or dialed some down. Second, I stopped talking about what I was doing. My goals and dreams are important to me. No one supported me. They thought I couldn’t do it. I’m here to tell you that I am doing it and you can too. Finally, I learned that I didn’t need to live my life according to anyone else’s standards. I don’t need their permission to live my life. And guess what? You don’t need anyone’s permission or approval to live your life, YOUR way.
“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.” ~ Shannon L. Alder
Look, not every day will be a good day. Realize that you will have some bad days. From time to time I go back there; having the limited beliefs and feel overpowered by them. When I had my pity parties (thank God not as much as I used to), I would think of all the things that I felt about myself. It was during times when people have said or done something. Not to mention, some events of my past have made me feel like I wasn’t worth anything to anyone.
It’s time to get started. Take some time to learn more about who you are. Grab a cup of your favorite beverage and a journal or piece of paper. Don’t forget a pen. Let’s do some work. Start with something simple. First, list everything you do like about yourself. Perhaps you’re good at playing piano, good at communicating with others, or whatever it is. Make a list of ten things to start. This should be easy. If you can find more, great. Keep going. When you feel that you’re not worth anything, look at your list. We all have gifts and purposes in our lives. Find that “thing” for you and you’ll be on your way to living your purpose. You are worth it.
Lovelies, you’re worth it. Take the time to get to know who you are. Stop living life on other people’s terms. They are not you. Find out what it is that makes you happy. That thing that puts a smile on your face and then go after it with all you got. Remember, You are valuable. You are talented. You deserve to be loved. Most importantly, You’re Worth It.