When the question, “What is Your Dream?” was posed to me years ago, I can admit at that time I wasn’t sure. I had so many dreams, but none were concrete. Perhaps this is true for a lot of us. Day after day, we go about our lives, taking care of our kids, working inside or outside of the home, etc. In the midst of it all, our dreams get shuffled to the bottom of our to-do list or get placed on the back burner altogether.
When I was younger, I dreamed of becoming a lawyer. I would dream about arguing big cases in a courtroom. The chance to be able to argue with people and get paid for it was very intriguing to me. My favorite show growing up was L.A. Law and every other law-related show that came on television. Once my daughter was born, my dream changed. Sometimes that does happen. Sometimes our dreams change too.
Sometimes, dreams change
Becoming a single mom was not a dream that I wanted for myself. But, since I was presented with it, I had to do what I needed to do. Unfortunately, at times our circumstances steer us into a new direction. Our dreams may or may not go with them. In my case, my dream of becoming a lawyer left. I was given a whole new dream. Instead of becoming a lawyer, I became a legal assistant. That was a better fit for me and my life. But that was not all.
“Before the Plan, there is an Idea. Before the Idea, there is a Purpose. Before the Purpose, there is Your Spirit…aching to express Itself” ~ Paresh Shah
Something new was happening to me. God gave me a new dream. One of those dreams was a be a good example and role model for my daughter. As a new mother now, I had to be careful of the decisions and/or choices I was making as she was now an important factor in anything that I chose to do. I started having dreams of owning my own business. However, I didn’t know what that looked like or what it entailed, but this dream seemed to explode every time I thought about it. It was exciting.
In doing research on this new dream, I read about other women who were making a difference in the world. How could I do or compete with that? I had no experience, or so I thought. Over the years, I had tried to do MLM businesses. They all failed. It wasn’t because it wasn’t a good thing. It wasn’t a good thing for me. I needed to discover what my passions were. This took me on an entirely new journey.
A New Dream
This new dream took some time for me to figure out. I read anything and everything about entrepreneurship hoping along the way I would discover some new things about me. I started to write it out on paper. Describing in detail what I was hoping for. I would write, then cross out. Write some more and cross out some more. Voices of self-doubt kept entering my mind. I continued to write and started to believe more in myself and in my dream. Finally, my dream was starting to take shape and before I knew it, I was becoming an entrepreneur.
“Be true to yourself and the right people and resources always show up. The Universe always conspires for the right meetings to occur. Everything is unfolding as it should. It really is.” ~ Maria Erving
The one important lesson I’ve learned as an entrepreneur was that my dream is my own. People were telling me how I should do this or do that; because I was good at it. Did it inspire passion in me? Not really. Suddenly, I was finding myself pursuing their dreams because I tried to make it mine. God gave me my dream and he’s been unfolding it before my eyes ever since.
Things started coming to me more naturally. I didn’t have to force it to happen and it was part of my dream. When things happen with ease, that’s part of your journey that you’re supposed to be on. Doors started opening. I was making great connections with wonderful people. It was effortless. Then after some time, it happened. I got stuck. It was not pretty.
Write It Down
So, I started doing my steps again. Writing things on paper. Flushing out ideas as they came. This time I didn’t share much about my dream. I kept it close to my heart and worked it out the way I needed to. This journey has been a hard one. I’m grateful for all that I have discovered and continue to discover about myself.
“Find what makes you happy and go for it with all your heart. It will be hard, but I promise it will be worth it.” ~ Charlotte Eriksson
Had I made any money at this time? Some, but not much. It was discouraging at first, but I still needed to perfect my specific purpose. So, back to writing again. I was spending more and more time writing about what it was I wanted. My ideal life was taking shape through my writing. I hadn’t figured out how it was going to happen yet. All I knew was that I needed to take action. Finally, I was making progress. There’s nothing easy about this journey.
So I ask you now, what is your dream? Do you desire to become a dancer? Or how about a doctor? Maybe a writer or speaker? Entrepreneur? Whatever your dream is, know that it’s possible. It’s never too late to pursue your dream. Ask yourself if whatever you’re doing now makes you happy? Do you enjoy what you do? If so, then you’re doing okay. However, if you’re not happy, then it’s time that you may want to reevaluate some things. I do understand the importance of needing to support your family. I also know what it’s like to do something that you don’t like and being miserable all the time. Sooner or later, it will take its toll.
I challenge you to dig deep and find your dream. Find what it is that will make you happy. We all have dreams. It isn’t too late for you. Don’t stop dreaming because you haven’t reached yours yet. Your time is coming. Isn’t it time to discover your dream?
I would like to hear about your dream. Share with me in the comments below.
Until Next Time….
Hi there! It’s nice to meet you! I’m a successful single mama, mental health advocate, sports fan, blogger and all around fun person helping other overwhelmed and stressed women entrepreneurs to get hope, have faith and be inspired to push through their depression and anxiety so they too can live the life of their dreams. Say hello! I would love to meet you! 🙂