From time to time, it still amazes me how people try to change others simply because they do not like who they are.   It may be your hair, your clothes, your looks or personality.  Here’s the deal.  I am who I am.  You are who you’re supposed to be.  Sweetie, just be who you really are.  Do not change because others want you to change.  Change because you want to change.  Really, just be who you really are.

be who you really are


“People are who they are and, try as you might, you cannot make them be what you want them to be.” ~ Leila Sales, This Song Will Save Your Life

I can admit that I was one that tried to change to suit others.  Why?  Great question.  To put it bluntly, I didn’t like who I was and I strived to make other people happy sacrificing myself in the process.  Additionally, to make matters worse, there were others who tried to tell me who I should be.  Yes, I am totally guilty of listening to dumb people who don’t know a thing about me and I am responsible for that.  Eventually, I realized that I am perfect just the way I am.

Society tells us that we should fit neatly into boxes.  All while, staying confined to their shape and rules.  As long as we stay in the box, surely they felt that they would have some sense of control over who we should be.  Yeah, no.  I really hated when people tried to change me to fit what they wanted.

For example, when I was younger, I somehow made the decision to write with my left hand.  Okay, kids just do things.  Anyways, I just seemed to pick up the pencil and put it in my left hand.  Needless to say, that seemed to frustrate some people in my world.  The school I attended tried to make me write with my right hand.  Why couldn’t they accept me as a happy go lucky left-handed individual? Ultimately, Society determined that that was not how things were done.

Back then, writing with your left hand had some stigmas attached to it.  Left-handers were called witches, unclean and even being possessed by the devil himself. Really? C’mon now.  In other words, we were different and society thought it could try and explain away our differentness.

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”
~ Marilyn Monroe

My message is for those that seem to think that others should change simply because they don’t like them. Well, take a look in the mirror baby.  If you want to change someone, start with who you see in the mirror. Learn to be who you really are.

Psalm 139:14 of the Bible states in part that I am fearfully and wonderfully made.  You see, I am already made perfect; uniquely, the way that God wanted me to be.  There was a time in my life that I had wished that I was skinnier, prettier, whatever it was at that time.  It’s taken me years to start to fully accept who I am.

We are all made different complete with our own imperfections and perfections.  No one is created alike.  You are an original; not a copy.  Learn to embrace your imperfections.  Tell yourself that you love them.  I’m speaking to myself as well as you too.

The boxes that have been created for us (by society) make it hard for us to step out of.  It’s been embedded into our minds that we need to be skinny, have long hair, etc.  These boxes keep us hostage and it makes it difficult to step out and embrace our full differentness.  Being different can be difficult at times.  You’re going against what society has said that you cannot be.  Who cares what society says? They are not you.  YOU are you and you are the only person that can change who you are into who you want to be.  Can I get an amen? Amen.

“A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.” ~ Coco Chanel, The Gospel According to Coco Chanel: Life Lessons from the World’s Most Elegant Woman

Constantly worrying what others think is a natural thing.  We spend so much time judging others because deep down inside, we see in others what we’re trying to hide in ourselves.

We, women, are the worst in this area.  Why do we spend so much time comparing ourselves to everyone else? Why are we are so judgemental of others that we can’t see who we really can be?   News Flash: We are beautiful and gifted with our own traits that make us unique and special.  The sooner that you (and me) accept that, the sooner we can make our own dreams come true. We must stop letting others tell us who we are and what we should be.  Stand up for you.  Show and tell everyone who YOU are.

“Don’t let the world tell you who you are. You get up and you tell the world who you are.” ~ A.D. Posey

Tell me what makes you unique and special.  It’s time that we start celebrating each other and ourselves. Remember to be who you really are.   Let us see the real you.

Until Next Time…

Hi there! It’s nice to meet you! I’m a successful single mama, mental health advocate, sports fan, blogger and all around fun person helping other overwhelmed and stressed women entrepreneurs to get hope, have faith and be inspired to push through their depression and anxiety so they too can live the life of their dreams. Say hello! I would love to meet you! 🙂