For years, I struggled with accepting myself for who I really am. Most women do. We go through so much and spend parts of our lives hiding from it and everyone. I’m a rape survivor. It took me 25 years to fully accept that event into my life. In the years before that, I did everything I could not to add that label to my identity. I didn’t want to accept that it happened. I pretended like it didn’t exist.
When I think about it now, I am slowly accepting this piece of my history. I obviously didn’t want this to happen to me. Since it has and there’s nothing I can do to change that. I AM A SURVIVOR. No, it’s not my title. It’s part of who I am. I AM A SURVIVOR.
When I think about self acceptance, I think about Queen Elsa from Frozen. Elsa was born with the powers to manipulate ice and snow. Elsa was never taught how to control her powers. Instead, she was forced to hide who she was by wearing gloves and being put into seclusion. She spent pretty much all of her adolescent life living in fear. It was during her coronation that things her worse fears came true. Things got out of control. It was so bad, that she ran away so she wouldn’t harm anyone else.
- Carl Jung said it best; I am not what happened to me, I am what I CHOOSE to become.
Self acceptance can be a hard thing to do. Especially when you have experienced something so traumatic. Understand, that we all have flaws. Even the most beautiful people in the world have flaws. Just keeping it real. There are some things in our lives that we can change; our hair, clothing, our walk, our talk, negative talk and negative thoughts, etc. But, there are things that we can’t change. We can’t change what happens to us. We can’t change our experiences. Once they happen, we either accept it or we don’t.
In my case, for 25 years, I didn’t want to accept it. It happened. It’s a part of my life. Going through the changes hasn’t been easy. I had to finally make a decision that I wanted happiness. Most importantly, I wanted peace. I got tired of keeping this secret in the back of my mind, locked away like nothing happened.
What do you choose to become? You can be anyone that you choose to be. Stop hiding from the world. Show up and become who you’re meant to be. It may be hard at first, but it can be done.
- Psalm 139:14 of the New King James Version of the Bible states that …“For I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”
YES, Gorgeous. I’m talking to you. This is truth. God made all of us unique. Choose to see yourself the way that God created you. You’re not ordinary. You are incredible. You are a gift. You are WONDERFUL. We all are. Whatever insecurities that you have, choose today to not let that rule your life. Choose to step into your purpose. Choose to become what you want to be.